Avoiding a difficult conversation? Be honest. Most of us have done it at some point.
We realize that we need to discuss an issue, but we feel concerned that the recipient won’t understand. We may fear that it won’t be received well. We often don’t know where to start.
In my executive coaching work, I often hear a “preamble” of sorts. When I ask why leaders might be avoiding a discussion. I hear things like:
My coaching is almost always the same: “Tell them exactly what you just said to me as the start to the conversation… use that as the starting place”. In other words, make the invisible dialogue in your head visible to the other person. Tell them that you are concerned how it will be received. Tell them if you are worried that you will sound too petty or trivial. Saying these things can be a powerful opening to a breakthrough conversation.
You should also come prepared for how that person will receive your message. You can do this by asking yourself these key questions before you meet:
Then put the preamble exactly where it belongs…at the beginning of a powerfully new and connected conversation!
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